Anger is the most unpredictable of our emotions. A second ago I wanted to cry from despair or irritation, and now my mind is clouding, sparkles fly from anger, the tongue speaks unpleasant things, and the palms are clenched into fists. We understand whether it is always worth expressing your anger and how to live it without harm to yourself and others.
What is anger?
Anger is basic emotion. In certain situations, every person experiences it.
Anger is of two types: healthy (good) and unhealthy (bad). In the first case, we strive to destroy any obstacles in our path to improve life. We feel the energy that helps to achieve the goals.
Poor anger is expressed in an effort to show others their “steepness” and make them understand our rightness and superiority. Very often this turns against ourselves, and certainly is not a healthy emotion.
Do you always need to express your anger?
Recently, many say that anger and negative emotions need to be expressed, you can not keep them in yourself. Experts often recommend following the path of constructive dialogue and calmly tell the offender about their
feelings. Of course, this is a good advice that can and should be used. But is this method of solving the problem is always justified and useful for living your negative emotions?
There are situations when anger should not splash out on your partner, colleague or boss. For example, if you do not want to upset the second half or not the right to be rude to the leader. The only thing you should do at the time of a clash with anger is to live properly without harming yourself and others.
Stages of living anger
Legalization. Stop for a couple of seconds and realize that now you feel just anger, anger and irritation. Tell yourself: “Now I’m angry. Now I am annoyed. Now I’m anger “. After these words, the brain will understand what exactly you are experiencing, and emotional stress will begin to subside.
Healthy living feelings. Learn to live anger without harm to yourself and other people. When we copy the negativity and do not pour this energy – we destroy ourselves from the inside. Emotions always give rise to movement. If you restrain himself from the manifestations of anger, then this movement will occur inside the body, and not in the external environment: the skin will turn red or turn pale, darkens in the eyes, the voice will begin to break, it will knock in the temples, the fists will squeeze. Each person has his own individual reaction.
Coordination of emotions with the body. Listen to yourself and try to understand exactly where the anger lives in the body, what sensations you experience: perhaps your chest is compressed or discomfort in your stomach appears? What does this feeling do with the body? By identifying it for yourself, you will improve your emotional state.
Breathing control. Stop and breathe. Take deep breaths in exhalations. It is enough for a few minutes to “breathe” her emotion – and she will let you go completely. Enlightenment will come in my head. You will have a desire to be angry and annoyed. It is likely that you can even find a solution to the problem that caused an aggressive reaction. Respiratory technique helps to calm down and recover. After all, sometimes the second half or colleague is not at all ready to hear that their behavior offends you and angry.
The first and most importantly, what needs to be done in a stressful situation is to help yourself. If it seems to you that it is now inappropriate to splash out your anger – you can not express it. But you must live this condition correctly so as not to harm your own health.
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